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Give up the caregiver Guilt

Guilt is a really common feeling among caregivers. It can also be destructive in your life and your family. Why do we feel this way? Sometimes, it’s because we’ve done something we are ashamed of. Maybe you snapped at your loved one because you’re tired, hungry, or just plain old cranky. Maybe it was because they were out of line. But there’s this nagging thought in the back of your mind, telling you that they should get a pass because they have cancer. Who’s going to give you a pass? Hopefully, they will (and you certainly should), especially if you’ve apologized and tried to make amends. We all make mistakes in relationships. This is why forgiveness is so important, to give and to accept. Give up Read more…

Financial Help

Cancer will take a terrible toll on a family’s finances. There are medical and transportation expenses, as well as the hit your finances will take when you and your spouse need to take time off of work for appointments and sick days. There are countless other things that add up to a big gaping hole in your bank account. Playing catch up as well as the stress of the unknown can certainly lead to burnout. There are several types of financial help to combat burnout. It’s always best to consider the various possible sources of financial help long before you need them. Immediately get your budget in order You need to know exactly what’s going out and what’s coming in before you can adjust to Read more…

Eliminate One Obligation

Do you feel like you are spread a bit thin? When you look at your calendar, does it make you tired? Today, we are going to lighten that load a bit as we eliminate one obligation. An obligation could be anything you feel like you should do. This might be work-related or it could be something you feel obligated to do because you’ve always done it. You can’t scratch everything from your schedule, but there’s always something you can. You have daily, obligations, but it’s likely those are pretty important. Monthly and annual obligations are often low impact, so they can stay as they are for now. Weekly obligations, however, make a significant impact on your life. When you eliminate one obligation a week it Read more…

Date Night

The first time my husband and I went on a date, it was to the local coffee shop. He was playing it safe. If the date was a flop, at least it wouldn’t cost him a fortune and the night didn’t have to run long. I was having a problem with my hearing. I could barely hear a word he said over the background hum of the shop. So, I smiled and nodded. Apparently, it worked because he asked me out the following week for dinner. Eventually, we got engaged. One night as we were on our weekly date, we were talking about our upcoming wedding. Dan told me that he intended to keep dating me. “Every week from now on, we are going to Read more…

Clear the clutter to avoid burnout

Today you are going to clear the clutter from one area of your life. Any area…You get to choose. This morning I’ve been running around looking for a copy of orders for labs that my daughter’s doctor gave me a couple of months ago. She has an appointment at the lab tomorrow and I’m supposed to bring them with, but can I find them? No. That’s because my home is cluttered and disorganized. Some of it is mental chaos after the holidays, but there’s really no excuse. SO it’s time to clear the clutter. Clear the clutter from your home This is a tough area to keep in order when you are living with cancer. Housework tends to get tossed to the wayside in favor Read more…

How can you begin your day in a way that will reduce burnout? Begin your day right… the night before. Take a look at the next 3 days on your calendar. That way nothing will sneak up on you. You will be prepared for upcoming appointments, things that need to go out in the mail, etc. Make a short to do list in order of importance. Set your clothes out for the next day. This will help you avoid a mad dash around your bedroom looking for that missing sock. Get to bed at a decent time. This is the one I struggle with. Stress can severely impact your sleep schedule and a lack of sleep leads to burnout—fast. Now that you’ve has a good Read more…

Ask for Help

In 2012 when my husband was first diagnosed with stage IV lung cancer, neither of us was very good at asking for help. It didn’t take long before we were spread awfully thin. #1 way to avoid burnout when you are facing cancer or any other difficult circumstance in life is to ask for help—and accept it. Asking for help is hard on your pride. Many people grow up thinking that asking help (or accepting it when it’s offered) is something you just do. So when you find yourself in a vulnerable situation, in need of assistance, it’s scary. And it can take some getting used to. Some of us have to learn the hard way and end up burning out before giving in. Asking Read more…

Avoiding Burnout

It’s that time of year! This April, I will once again be participating in the A to Z Blogging Challenge. Every day (except Sundays) bloggers post to their blogs something that pertains to a specific theme (usually) and corresponds to the letter of the alphabet assigned to that day. Today is the day when participants reveal their chosen theme. Last year my theme was “Caregiving.” This year I’m going to branch off from that theme and focus on something that caregivers (and everyone else) from time to time, must battle. Facing Cancer with Grace’s theme in 2019 is… Avoiding Burnout Burnout is the result of prolonged, excess stress. It can leave you mentally overwhelmed, physically exhausted, emotionally drained, and even spiritually withdrawn.  Burnout renders you Read more…

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