I’m doing double duty this month during the A to Z Blogging Challenge. Here at Facing Cancer with Grace, I will focus on caregiving. I’ll also be doing the challenge at Heather Erickson Author/Writer/Speaker, where I will share ways to increase your creativity. I hope you’ll visit me at both sites. While you’re here, sign up for my email list. Today’s post is Z for Zero in on Self-Care
I’m not going to give you a laundry list of self-care ideas. There are enough of those on the web. I do want to talk about how address all of your needs using the ideas that you decide are for you. You are a whole being with many parts. The key to ideal self-care is to make sure you balance these parts.
Keeping a close eye on how you are doing emotionally is essential as a caregiver. It can be so easy to burn out and end up feeling overwhelmed and depressed. It’s a good idea to develop a relationship with a therapist early on in your caregiving role. A therapist can help you navigate the emotional icebergs that threaten to sink caregivers. They can be a listening ear with whom you can openly share your deepest fears and failures.
- Allow yourself to cry.
- Getting angry is also okay. A non-destructive way of expressing this (and any emotion) is through journaling.
- It’s okay (and even essential) to laugh.
Pay attention to any health issues YOU have. SO often, we are taking such good care of others that we neglect ourselves. That can lead to disastrous effects. You need to stay healthy to be there for your family.
- Make sure to include a healthy diet in your daily routine. This will fuel you with good stuff, rather than junk, giving you the energy to get through difficult days.
- Include moderate exercise as a regular part of your life. You may not be able to fit this into every day, but if you examine your days with a creative outlook, you will be able to sneak activity in, and you will feel better for it.
- Get a good night’s sleep!
- Avoid unhealthy habits like smoking, alcohol and illicit drug use.
- It’s important to keep your mind sharp.
- This could include puzzles and games.
- Reading is a great way to stretch your intellect, and you could read about anything that interests you.
- There are tons of free online classes.
As social beings, we crave connection—even introverts like me! How we get that connection will vary from one person to the next. It’s important to get your social needs filled in a way that fits your needs. That might be going out for coffee with one friend, or going to a big gathering of friends that lasts for hours.
For some people, limiting your social dance card can be just as essential to self-care. Introverts tend to be more drained by people than extroverts are. Listen to your body to prevent becoming burned out by too much of a good thing.
Many caregivers have to juggle their role as a caregiver with their career. Like self-care, how you approach this will depend a great deal on how you view your job as a priority. Is it just a way to pay the bills? Do you look at your job as part of a long-term career path that needs to be nurtured? The way you answer these questions will help you decide how to handle your professional life. The more you value maintaining your professional path, the more you will need to rely on help from others to ensure you can give it the attention it needs.
- You may choose to change jobs to one that is more flexible or take a leave of absence.
- Your job may be a welcomed escape from caregiving.
- Finances might dictate how you handle your professional life.
- Know your rights. Take advantage of things like the Family Medical Leave Act.
Your spiritual life should be the core of your self-care. It is what directs your value system and gives you a sense of identity. This is true, even if you don’t think you have a spiritual life. A great starting point is to determine if there are any gaps between your spiritual values and the way you are carrying them out in your life.
Find a spiritual mentor. This doesn’t have to be something formal, but you should know who you look up to and why. Consider what it is about them that you respect. Over time, establish a relationship with them so that you have someone to turn to when you have questions about God or how you should handle different situations.
Nurture your spiritual life. It can be easy to skip church and let your prayer life lapse. Going deeper will unearth amazing rewards long-term in your spiritual life.
How to Zero in on Self-Care
Regularly check in with yourself to see what areas of your life need nurturing. Make sure you aren’t putting all of your eggs in one basket, either. Trust your intuition and pay attention to any areas that are lacking.
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In 2012 doctors diagnosed my husband, Dan, with stage IV lung cancer. Since then, our family has been learning what it means to face cancer. I’ve focused my writing and speaking on helping cancer patients and their families advocate for themselves and live life to the fullest, in spite of their illness. My goal is to help people face cancer with grace.
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